Nerds and geeks are oftentimes gentle and caring persons - they are just not quite able to express it. The question is whether they are worth the investment in time and effort to educate them in the social niceties.

Consider that teaching a nerdy boyfriend social skills is really not all that big a deal. Compare that with trying to "reform" a predator/victimizer, not only a futile effort, but possibly a dangerous one as well.

A nerd can, with a little effort, become a skillful lover, even a devoted and loving husband. His earning potential will be far greater than those insensitive louts you have been wasting your time on. He will share your passions for the finer things in life, good music, literature, and the arts. He will be an intelligent conversation partner. Even in his present unfinished state, he shows the potential of becoming your soulmate.

So, where can you meet the "geek of your dreams"? Computer-oriented groups are a good place to start, and who knows, you might just discover an aptitude for programming (it's almost as much fun as kinky sex). Perhaps you can develop a passion for astronomy or microbiology. Plenty of nerds in those fields.